Social media is not ruining your already failing relationship

Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat and Twitter weren’t around when our parents met and fell in love. Some may argue that the lack of technology has been the key to making their relationship last.

Infidelity was a lot harder to get away with before social media.

People were able to talk about their problems more, fix them and keep their relationship intact.

Or, so they would like to tell you.

This thinking ignores one very simple fact: If someone wants to be with you, it doesn’t matter how many heart eyes are under their picture, they’ll choose you.

Yes, we are hiding behind screens.

Yes, we are having less face to face interactions with the people we meet romantically.

Yes, we now have weird terms for the stages of dating that I personally hate.

However, navigating these waters doesn’t take rocket science nor is it grounds for you to swear off dating unless he owns a Nokia.
Also we need to grow up as a culture and understand accountability, trust and what it really means to be honest with your partner.
If you don’t like what they’re tweeting or who they’re tweeting to, have a conversation. Whether we like it or not, our accounts are extensions of ourselves.

Social media doesn’t exist in a vacuum and what you post can be hurtful or disrespectful while you’re in a relationship.
Still, that is also up to the interpretation of both parties. What it really all boils down to is talking about it and being able to communicate your grievances effectively and respectfully.

If you can’t do that to begin with, you were doomed from the start.

I genuinely get a chuckle out of people who blame social media for revealing people as the way they already are.
Any deception that plays out was going to happen anyway.

People are who they are. If anything, you should be thankful that a person’s true self can be revealed to you so easily these days.
Technology hasn’t changed us.

It’s just easier to engage in behaviors we always wanted to do but didn’t have an outlet for.

You’ll be fine but remember that when people show you who they really are, whether it’s on Facebook or right in front of your face, don’t make excuses, believe them.